Tips for making divorce more bearable even if it is difficult, the decision of divorce can be accepted and carried out by a childless couple, however, everything gets complicated when you have children at home, since for them it can be very sad to accept, since they do not understand the reasons why their parents desire no longer be together. We offer these tips in order to make divorce more bearable for children: do not talk badly of his Dad or MOM. They should never hear it speaks badly of the other parent, regardless of whether you behaved well or badly. When we are children, it hurts us to hear criticism about one of the people we love most. The children value judgements are still very basic and they do not understand the reasons for the fight between their parents. Control your anger for the sake of your children.
Maintain consistency in rules and routines. Probably when the parents divorcing, the children will begin to spend a few days at home of his mother and others in his dad’s House. The most appropriate way of helping it adapt is respect the same routines and rules in both houses (schedules of food, games, study, education, etc.). Otherwise, children confound between what is good and what is evil. It is very important that parents would agree on everything that corresponds to the children. Share the birthdays of children with your former partner. Several couples come to divorce because they have come to hate. For example, when it is the birthday of children, recommended that both parents are present, but they do not want to be in the same place.
Children will be happy and feel special on that date, because the people who most love will be next to them. Not compete with its parent. Children love for just two parents so if one day expressed that they want to go to the House of your former partner, it’s not worth putting is jealous. It allows to express their emotions. The divorce of the parents is not easy for children to accept, must therefore allow them to process everything that happens to your time and mode. Let them talk and express themselves, but not aggressively. Explain to them that it is not their fault. Commonly children think that they are to blame for the divorce of their parents. It is essential that you talk to them clearly and tell them the reasons why their parents will no longer be together. It would be a big mistake that ignoraras them. Tell them that you love them. Never forget to remind them how much you love them, because in the midst of a complex situation such as divorce will be a great relief knowing that your MOM and your dad love him whatever happens. It exemplifies with other divorced couples. You can talk about parents divorced from your children’s friends, this will help make strangers do not feel. He thinks that if you accompany your children at every stage of the process of divorce, no doubt everything will be more bearable for you and your former partner.